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Dating, singles, relationships, sex tips and advice blog for men and women./ Shades of Grey: Contact is Contact, Emotionally Unavailable is Emotionally Unavailable
If there is one thing a woman in a dubious relationship loves, it’s shades of grey. Looking between the lines when there is no gap. Seeing gold or platinum when it’s actually copper. Seeing a loaf when it’s a crumb. Over rationalising things to make it fit within her reason. And the big ones; assuming [...]
Dating, singles, relationships, sex tips and advice blog for men and women./ How To Lose An Assclown in 90 Days Excerpt: The Trap of Compassion & Projection with Assclowns
I thought it was time to post a little excerpt which, judging by the comments on my last post, 'Why do we throw ourselves at bad relationships and then wonder why it hurts?', is rather timely. In How to Lose An Assclown in 90 Days, I explain the 7 Deadly Trappings of Relationships with Assclowns and one of them is our tendency to be too compassionate and couple it with projection: "I’m going to cut right to the chase and be blunt – men are not children that you need to raise from the ground up. It’s not about taking a man with rocky foundations (or even non-existent) and building your vision of him on top of it and teaching him how to be. I hate to break it to you, but one, if not two people, have already parented the man that is in front of you. Someone else gave birth to him and he has grown up and the end result has been an assclown, or at the very least, a man that behaves like an assclown to you.
Dating, singles, relationships, sex tips and advice blog for men and women./ Why do we throw ourselves at bad relationships and then wonder why it hurts?
Imagine if you stood on the edge of the pavement (sidewalk) on a busy road. Instead of waiting till it is clear, you purposefully step out as a speeding car approaches. It hits you, but you survive. Now imagine doing this repeatedly and surviving. Yes you'd survive but you'd have surface wounds as well as untold damage internally and it would affect you emotionally, no matter how much you think you'd 'healed'.  |
